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Here’s a wealth paradox that could have you scratching your head for days: wealthy people tend to carry themselves with a certain sense of security and confidence; but do they carry themselves that way because way are wealthy? Or did they become wealthy BECAUSE they carry themselves that way? Think about it.

Most people assume that wealthy people act differently, and carry themselves differently simply because they are rich and have different life experiences than poor people. And it is undeniable that our environment/income does affect how we carry ourselves, but in my experience the reverse is also true. How we feel about ourselves has a HUGE effect on the environment/income we create for ourselves.

This is what Earl Nightingale called “The Strangest Secret.” When you see yourself as a rich, abundant person, over time your environment begins to reflect this. You simply “attract” different things from this perspective.

This is a basic Law of Attraction idea, and to some it may sound like a far-fetched claim, but consider this: there’s no denying that how you see and carry yourself affects how people relate to you, which can then dramatically affect your finances and your success in business, relationships, and many other things. And the effect goes even deeper…

When you see yourself as a wealthy person, it not only affects how others see you, it begins to change what you believe about yourself on a deeper level — what you beieve you are capable of. This has an important impact on your ability to create success in many different areas of your life. If you consistently see yourself as a person for whom success is inevitable, you will usually be RIGHT.

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The power of your thoughts and beliefs is unmistakable. Your self image and habitual thoughts set the tone of your entire life. Whether you will attract success or failure in any area of life begins with what you habitually think and believe. As Law of Attraction coach Mike Dooley once said, “thoughts become things.”

The greatest resource to attract success is the human mind. It sets the agenda. It can bring you great success, riches, happiness and fulfillment. Or it can attract misery, lack, poverty and anxiety. It really is that important.

Your mission (and mine) is to gain some discipline over our thoughts and beliefs, to make sure that our habitual thoughts are serving us well. Too many people overlook the importance of the power of thought. Make sure you don’t let “doing” distract you from the importance of “thinking.” How we discipline and use our thoughts is the number one predictor of success. And also failure.

Decide what you want, and decide you will attract it. Believe in yourself and your goals. “See” them as if they are already here, and enjoy and appreciate every minute of it. If you can think rich and feel rich, you can BE rich. It’s all up to you…
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The new year is almost upon us – have you set your goals yet?

While I have never been a big fan of New Year’s resolutions, I do think it is important at the end of the year to take stock and evaluate where you are and how you’re doing in relation to your goals and dreams.

So how about you? Are you making headway? Or have you let some of your goals slide?

Once you have assessed where you are right now, you can begin plotting a course for the new year. And as always, I encourage you to set your goals high. A mediocre goal never inspired anyone! Make your goals large enough to excite your imagination and inspire you into action.

Speaking of which, it’s important to start the new year inspired, and to use your imagination to envision the life you want to live this year, including the social life you want, the wealth and abundance you desire, and the good health you plan to enjoy this year. I know it’s a cliché, but you really do have to “see it in order to achieve it.”

So have a fantastic New Year’s Eve celebration, but remember to take a little time to map out your path for the new year – where you going, and how you want to live in 2012. Make your inner vision strong, colorful and detailed. Let it guide you, inspire you and motivate you to attract your best possible life in the coming year.

Wishing you increasing success, prosperity, health and happiness!
Jon
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I’m very fortunate. I had the opportunity to get a good education, and it’s something for which I feel incredibly grateful. But there are important life lessons that I never learned in any classroom. In fact, there are many of them. But for the sake of brevity, I have compiled a list of of five BIG life lessons I never learned in school:

Number 1: Delayed Gratification

Most people are impatient these days; we want what we want — and we want it now! But it’s usually in our best interest to take a long term view, rather than rushing after what we want right now. A good example is saving your money to buy something, rather than purchasing on credit. Or staying in school and studying a little longer, so you’ll have more job opportunities in the future. Delayed gratification is not something we are born understanding — we have to learn it. It’s all about looking past the immediate gratification of getting what you want right now, and thinking of the long-term satisfaction of living better in the future. I sometimes call it “projective thinking” because you are focused on more than just what would make you happy right now. You are projecting your thoughts, your values, and your decisions into the future to create something better for yourself and your loved ones.

Number 2: Your Health Is Your Wealth

We are issued one physical body in this life; the only one we will ever have. When the chips are down in life and things look bleak, as long as you have your health, as long as you feel strong and vital, you can still get back up and start over. There is always a chance to make things right while you are strong and healthy. But without your health, nothing else matters a whole lot – certainly not money, achievement or “success.” Without your health you cannot appreciate any of these things or take advantage of them. So be good to your body. Treat it like a dear and cherished friend. After all, it has to last you an entire lifetime.

Number 3: Just Because You’re “Correct” Doesn’t Mean You’re “Right”

You’ve probably heard that Dr. Phil guy say “would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” While I don’t always agree with Phil McGraw, he is spot on about this. Too many times we let our egos get in the way of our happiness. If we focus too much on being “right,” we can lose sight of the most important thing in life: being happy. You can live your entire life, be happy and achieve loads of things, and still be wrong about a great many opinions you hold. Just as there is a difference between knowledge and wisdom, there is also a difference between being correct and being right. Being right is often about backing off and letting others say, do or believe whatever they want to say, do or believe. You have to pick your battles carefully in life, and letting your ego force you into confrontations all the time is a huge waste of both your time and energy. Think beyond right and wrong. Let go and let everything be good.

Number 4: You Get What You Give

This may seem like the oldest cliche in the book, but boy is it true! We all have wants and desires, but some of us are never satisfied, constantly hungering for more, more, more. But trying to get as much as you can in life is a lousy strategy. Most often, it backfires. If you want to attract abundance and “have” a lot in life, you’ve got to begin to give. Giving signifies abundance, wealth and maturity. When you give freely of yourself, your time and resources, you put yourself in the flow of life; and you are sure to attract good things back to you. Remember, life gives to the givers and takes from the takers.

Number 5: Always Aim Higher Than The Goal

When we set higher standards for ourselves we reap higher rewards. People who aim for mediocrity, however, often fall far short of even that. It’s always a good idea to try to “over shoot” the goal. Even if you think you’d be comfortable making $100,000 a year, you should be aiming for at least 200K, if not more. And remember, if you don’t set higher standards for yourself, who will? No one, that’s who. And you’ll end up “settling” a lot in life. And understand, none of this will make any real difference to your friends, coworkers or family members. Not really. But it WILL make a big difference to you! Don’t settle for less than you really want out of life. As I like to say, “get up on your high-horse and stay there.”

~Jon
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Dating and relationships are important (and potentially tricky) areas of life.  Who we spend our days and months and years with is obviously a REALLY big deal.  So it makes sense that we would try to attract the best possible partner.

The right person can fill your life with joy and love, and inspire you to do more and be more. Research demonstrates that happy couples are even healthier and live longer on average than others.  However, choosing the wrong partner can be disastrous for your state of mind, your health, and even your finances!

So what does the law of attraction say about dating and attracting a perfect relationship? Let’s take a look.

Knowing What You Want

In order to attract what you want, in any area of life, the starting point is to know what you want.  This sounds pretty basic, but it’s amazing how many people cannot define exactly what they want (and yet they somehow expect to get it???). This is especially true in dating, as many people believe things will just work out naturally, so they don’t need to think about it too much. Unfortunately, that is rarely the case…

One problem with not clearly defining what you want in a relationship is that you’ll more than likely end up “settling” for someone who does not have characteristics that “fit” with yours.  It is important that partners have things in common; but in my experience it is equally important that they don’t have too much in common! A good relationship has balance.

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A good example is when one partner’s energetic type A personality is balanced out by the other partners laid-back type B Personality. The end result is that one partner calms down a little, while the other gets a little energy boost. There is balance and harmony.

So step one is to get very clear about the kind of partner you’re looking for, what their values are, and what kind of personality will work well with yours.  This doesn’t mean that you go “shopping” for a date with a whole grocery list of characteristics that MUST be fulfilled.  Relationships are give-and-take.  But it does mean you have to have a clear starting point, an understanding of what kind of partner you’re trying to attract.

Cause and Effect

The second step in attracting the right partner is to understand this hard truth: if you ‘re not already dating the kind of partner you want, it’s not because of fate or bad luck, it’s because you are not doing the right things to attract that person (at least not yet .  This is cause and effect. In order to get a different result (the effect) you going to have to change what you’re doing (the cause).

And I don’t just mean you’re going to have to change your way of thinking — although that is an excellent starting point.  You may also have to change your day-to-day habits: where you go, what you do, and who you associate with.  One thing is clear though: you can not continue doing and thinking the same things and expect to get a different result.  To attract a better partner, you have to become the kind of person who attracts a better partner. Embracing change is helpful.

It’s Nothing Personal

Obviously, to attract someone new into your life you’ve got to put yourself “out there.”  This means you’re going to have to risk rejection.  The more comfortable you are with rejection, the easier dating is; and the more you can put yourself in position to meet the right person.

While no one likes to be rejected, it’s much easier to deal with if you don’t take it personally.  For that reason, I advise my clients who are actively searching for new relationship to expect that will be some rejection on their quest to attract a new mate.  It’s an unavoidable part of dating new people — things just don’t always work out. Further, I instruct them that they are to consider any rejection a necessary rite of passage, something EVERYONE goes through, and never take it personally in any way.

Another thing that helps deal with potential rejection is to make sure you don’t look at dating as a competitive transaction.  If you focus on what you can give to others, it’s a lot easier to actually get what you want.  On the other hand, if you focus excessively on getting, you’re going to have a tough time attracting and dating the right person.

Remember, life gives to the givers and takes from the takers. If you approach dating and relationships with this state of mind, things will go MUCH smoother.

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It’s been a long time coming, and there have been a few delays along the way; but today I’m proud to announce that my first book, “Stronger Better Happier!” finally has been released (cue the balloons and party music. Whoo Hoo!).

“Stronger Better Happier” is a different kind of self-help book — equal parts inspirational/motivational and practical guide, complete with some of the coolest (and a few of the weirdest!) NLP and behavioral techniques and exercises I’ve discovered over years of coaching. The goal was to create the kind of resource I wish I would have had when I began this journey into personal development.

I want to express my sincere gratitude today, to everyone who supported and encouraged me to write (and eventually finish ) ‘Stronger Better Happier.’ Your positive spirit and unwavering  support have made this book possible, and are greatly appreciated.

The First edition of “Stronger” to be released is the Amazon Kindle version. But you DON’T need a Kindle to read it. The Kindle app is available for Mac/PC, Android phones, iPhones, iPods, iPads and other devices. Personally, I’ve been using the Kindle apps on both my iPad and Nexus One (Android) phone, both of which work flawlessly, and even have advanced controls to minimize back-lighting and glare. I especially recommend the iPad version, which scrolls super smooth and looks fantastic.

You can also try a free sample of the book buy clicking the “send sample” button on the right-side of the Amazon sales page. And of course, you can rate and leave a review as well (something I would greatly appreciate!).

A print version of “Stronger” is on the way too (for those who prefer the touch and smell of a real paper and ink). It should be available within the next few weeks on Amazon.com and many of the biggest distributors. I’ll keep you posted.

Thank you once again for your amazing support and well wishes. And a very special thank you to Jane, Matt, Brittany and Julia (Juju) for their artful advice, contributions, assistance and friendship.

And of course, I’d love to know what YOU think about the book. You can comment on this post, or contact me via Facebook or twitter (links below), or rate and review Stronger Better Happier! on Amazon.com.

To your continued abundance, peace and prosperity!
Jon

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