AttractAnything! (The Blog)

Everyone who works with the law of attraction realizes that it’s important to stay focused on what you want and not waste your energy on things you don’t want. Of course, this isn’t just a law of attraction idea; it’s common sense.  After all, why would you give your energy and attention to things you don’t want? It’s like eating at a restaurant every day where you hate the food. You keep going back for more and giving them your energy (time, money), but you get nothing enjoyable out of it.

I’m certainly not the first law of attraction coach to observe that people LOVE to focus on things they don’t want sometimes. And I’m not immune to it either. I sometimes struggle to turn off television shows or films about subjects I definitely do not want in my experience. There seems to be a part of me (maybe a part of everyone?) that craves having a little bit of drama and conflict. The real question is, is this drama addiction human nature, or just a bad habit?

I don’t have a definitive answer to that question; but I do know one thing: there is enough drama and conflict in life already, without us creating more by focusing on “artificial drama” (television, etc.).

Conflict, drama, confusion and heartbreak are all part of the human experience. I truly doubt anyone could live a life completely free of these things (or should). But that DOES NOT mean we should go around looking for them! This is how I interpret the law of attraction concept of not focusing on things you don’t want. It’s basically saying, don’t go looking for trouble. haha

Now Here’s Where It Gets Tricky…

The main concept of the law of attraction seems so simple a child could understand it: focus on positive things you WANT, and don’t give attention or energy to negative things you DON’T want. But in order to focus on things that are positive, you have to first figure out what is positive TO YOU. A very positive and happy experience for one person can be an absolute nightmare for another. Here’s an example:

I have a close friend who always e-mails or texts calling me s**thead, d-bag, or worse. Of course, I do the same thing back to him, and we’ve had this playful exchange of obscenities going on for more than 10 years now. Is it juvenile and silly? Of course! But it’s our male bonding ritual, our way of staying connected with each other. Being typical males, neither of us is entirely comfortable showing affection for the other, so the obscenities have become a kind of code for expressing these positive feelings.

The point is, some people would find these comments offensive and negative, but for me it’s always a very positive experience because of WHAT IT MEANS TO ME.

Likewise, what feels positive and uplifting to you might feel negative and depressing to me. So there is no universal standard for “positivity.” Even emotions like gratitude that feel very positive to most people can feel negative to some. One person e-mailed me recently and said making gratitude lists and thinking about gratitude made her feel fearful and depressed. My response was basically, “then don’t do them.”

If it Doesn’t Feel Good to You, Its Not Good for You…

Anything that makes you feel fearful or negative is simply not working for you. When you encounter experiences, people and things that bring on these emotions, you really only have two choices: continue to allow them to make you feel fearful and negative, or do a 180 and walk in the other direction. Even if it’s a person place or thing that everybody else loves. Your job is simply to focus on what feels good to YOU. Do that, and everything else will take care of itself.

Filed under: Law of Attraction, Positive Thinking