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I don’t attract critical or spammy e-mails. And normally, if I should receive some kind of ranting e-mail (which basically never happens), I’ll just hit the delete button without ever reading it. I don’t want that kind of stuff “on my radar.” After all, the law of attraction means whatever we are focusing on is what we are attracting.

But a while back I did read such an e-mail — only because it came from the husband of a woman who had purchased our AttractAnything Law of Attraction Video Series. The “husband” was complaining that the law of attraction was “for losers” and people who could not succeed in the “real world.” He then spent a lot of time complaining that his wife must be “mentally ill” to fall for this stuff, and claimed that he was going to start “tightly controlling” what came into “his home” in the future.

He even asked me to refund her payment, even though he admitted that she didn’t want a refund and was happy with the series!

I barely know where to begin to describe what I think is wrong with this gentleman’s comments. Especially the part about “tightly controlling” his family, and “his home.” These comments indicate some rather serious control issues, and frankly, a lack of respect for his wife, her opinions, and her belief in the law of attraction.

But, the fact is, there are people like this gentleman out there in the world, and they have their role to play just like everyone else. Truth be told, when I hear comments like this (which thankfully is not often at all), I’m reminded of the way I used to look at the world, and the way that I used to try to unnaturally control other people, jobs, situations and myself.

But there was something else interesting about that e-mail, and this is the main point I want to make in this post. We ALL have a little bit of this guy’s attitude inside us. Most of us assume that there is a “real world” out there, and that we can judge and measure ourselves in comparison to this perceived “real world.” Actually, this is a very easy mistake to make, but it is a mistake nonetheless. And a serious one, if we want to live in accordance with the law of attraction.

The fact is, none of us knows anything about the “real world,” if there is such a thing. We all filter information to create a “mental map” of the world, to help us navigate our way through life. The problem is, it is easy to start believing that “the map is the territory.”

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A map is a useful tool. It’s a visual representation of something else, that helps us to understand where we are, and where we are going. But the map is NOT the territory. If I point to the word “Alaska” on a map of the US, I’m not pointing to “Alaska,” I’m pointing to A MAP! The map gives us clues about certain features of Alaska, but it cannot give us the experience of “being” in Alaska. They are two very different things.

Sorry for the crazy map metaphor, but I hope you get the idea. Each of us creates (in our mind) a mental representation of what we believe “reality” to be. But these mental maps that we create are heavily filtered — by the culture we live in, by our family and childhood experiences, by our age, gender and nationality, by our education, religion, beliefs and goals, and by many, many other factors. That’s why no two people’s view of the “real world” is exactly the same. And if you travel around the world a bit, you will discover that people sometimes have dramatically different perceptions of the world we live in!

So I think that the “husbands” rant against the law of attraction was a good reminder for me (and maybe for you too), that “the map is not the territory.” Understanding this keeps us from getting arrogant, from assuming we have all the answers and the “correct” view of reality. It also reminds us that there is more going on in this world than we are aware of, and that we always have more power and resources than we know.

90% of an iceberg is underwater. If we assume that the 10% we can see is all there is, we’re really just kidding ourselves, aren’t we?

Oh, and before I forget, Happy New Year!

Wishing you a richer, healthier and happier 2009!
Jon

Jon Mercer, MA
Law of Attraction Coach

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