Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work Sometimes
Why does the law of attraction not seem to work for some people? This is a topic that’s been covered many times before, but I want to look at it from a different angle. I sometimes get e-mails from people who have been trying to use the law of attraction to improve some aspect of their life, but without much success.
In almost all of these cases the person has some sort of emotional block about what they are trying to attract — whether it’s money, a new relationship, job, car, whatever. And the truth is we all have blocks in certain areas — most of us have baggage from our past, and if we don’t “air it out” and deal with it, it can poison our emotions and state of mind, causing us to attract unwanted things into our lives.
Here’s an example: my friend CG sent me an e-mail telling me about his experiences using the law of attraction to gain financial security, improving his income and his standard of living. But he also mentioned he had been trying to use the exact same techniques to attract a better relationship with his family, but he hadn’t been very successful in this area — yet.
This isn’t really surprising because many of us have baggage and “issues” relating to our families. Sometimes it is sibling rivalry; sometimes it’s as 
simple as not feeling appreciated by family members, or having them treat you as if you were still 10 years old! To make matters even worse, these kinds of blocks are usually buried deep in our subconscious, making them difficult to understand and deal with.
I also have blocks in certain areas that I have become aware of over the years — and perhaps I have blocks in other areas I am not even aware of (haha). Here’s my rule of thumb for dealing with these kind of deep-seated issues that are causing you to attract things you don’t want:
If you can’t get over it, learn to accept it.
Sometimes we have baggage that we’re just not ready to let go of on a deeper level and it becomes like a sore spot in our life. Now ask yourself, what do you do if you have a sore spot on your body? Obviously, you see a doctor and get it fixed if you can. But if it won’t heal completely and it becomes a chronic problem, the best advice is simply don’t mess with it, and don’t focus on it.
What we are talking about here is ACCEPTANCE. We have to improve what we can, and learn to accept those things we cannot change. Now, to some people this sounds like simply giving up. They believe that if they accept their baggage or emotional issues, then these things will be with them forever and their situation will never improve. But fortunately, that is usually not the case.
Many times, accepting an aspect of ourself we don’t like actually begins the healing process. We have to make peace with who we are: the good, the bad, and the ugly. If you’ve tried to change a situation unsuccessfully for any length of time, it is time to upgrade your strategy — STOP trying to change it and learn to accept and even appreciate it as a part of your overall personality. Ironically, doing this often improves the problem substantially. There’s an old Buddhist saying that explains this phenomenon:
“If you focus on something too intensely, your energy will push it away.”
Some people struggle and try so hard to attract something into their life that their energy ends up pushing it away. That is why practicing the law of attraction as a philosophy should always be done with an easy-going spirit and a joyful heart. Take it seriously, but NOT so seriously that it becomes work or a chore. It should be a fun and positive experience.
If it seems like hard work, you’re doing something wrong!
So here’s my best advice: make having fun and enjoying yourself a top priority in your life, no matter what! When you are in a positive, happy state of mind, your vibration immediately changes and you begin attracting very different circumstances. So do everything you can to feel as good as possible as often as possible. And don’t forget to share those good feelings with others (this just magnifies the effect).
Remember, the law of attraction is not brain surgery — keep it light, easy and joyful and you’ll get MUCH further in attracting the life you really want!
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When I focus on how thankful I am for things, often times I am overwhelmed with fear that I will lose them… is there anyway to minimize the fear and hold on to the thankfullness?
Hi Lisa, Even though practicing gratitude is a really positive experience for many people, everyone is different (and that’s good!) and we all experience it in a different way. The bottom line is, anything that makes you feel fearful is not good for you; so in your case I believe it’s more important to focus on why you DESERVE the good things.
My advice is to don’t concern yourself with gratitude right now. Instead, make an “awesome list” every day, where you list all the ways you are awesome. Dig deep and you’ll find lots of them.
Ideas: Maybe you’re a great friend, mother, daughter, sister, worker, athlete, chef, writer, “fashionista,” singer, artist. Maybe you have a great sense of humor, give good advice, have a quiet wisdom, have creative ideas, work well with others, are a great leader, speak a second language, are a safe driver, have a nice speaking voice, are computer savvy, are very loyal, etc.
Find all the things that are awesome about you, all the reasons WHY you are awesome, and look for new ones each day. Write them down sometimes, and other times just list them in your head. The more you do it, the more you will build and strengthen neural pathways around this type of thought. Soon you will naturally see yourself that way. This will help you feel more deserving of all the good out there, and less inclined to let fear spoil your party
~Jon